....sweet lover....

I don't pretend to be a reader. I love to read, but it takes me a LONG time to comprehend what I just read...sometimes rereading it....until I find something that interests me :)

As corny as it sounds, I love Chicken Soup for the Soul books. I bought Chicken Soup for the Couple's Soul a few years ago, and never had the urge to open it. Its been by my bedside for years, and after we married, I had a craving to read it...not from page 1 though...I gotta skip around ;)

First page I opened up to couldn't be more true, and real, so I had to share it. Its the greatest explanation of intimacy I've ever heard...and the way I've always described it to others. I knew this true intimacy existed, and never fully felt it until I met my sweet husband....

Chapter: Love & Intimacy
What Does It Mean to Be a Lover?


"Presence is more than just being there." Malcolm Forbes

What does it mean to be a lover? It is more than just being married to or making love to someone. Millions of people are married, millions of people have sex~but few are real lovers. To be a real lover, you must commit to and participate in a perpetual dance of intimacy with your partner.


You are a lover when you appreciate the gift that your partner is, and celebrate that gift every day.


You are a lover when you remember that your partner does not belong to you~he or she is on loan from the universe.


You are a lover when you realize that nothing that happens between you will be insignificant, that everything you say in the relationship has the potential to cause your beloved joy or sorrow, and everything you do will either strengthen your connection or weaken it.


You are a lover when you understand all this, and thus wake up each morning filled with gratitude that you have another day in which to love and enjoy your partner. 


When you have a lover in your life, you are richly blessed. You have been given the gift of another person who has chose to walk beside you.  He or she will share your days and your nights, your bed and your burdens.  Your lover will see secret parts of you that no one else sees. He or she will touch places on your body that one else touches. Your lover will seek you out where you have been hiding, and create a haven for you within safe, loving arms.


Your lover offers you an abundance of miracles every day. He has the power to delight you with his smile, his voice, the scent of his neck, and the way he moves. She has the power to banish your loneliness. He has the power to turn the ordinary into the sublime. She is your doorway to heaven here on earth.


~Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D

The first time I read this I cried. Every stinking example/experience is true...and possible!

Happy early Birthday to the person that can make me laugh when I'm crying, smile when I'm sad, help me take care of our zoo-like pups (not get mad when Loxie eats your shoes), surprises me with random I love you's, doesn't complain about the 2.5 sqft of bed he has to himself, cooks me food (and remembers my food allergies), stops by the studio just to say hi, help me apply fake tan, watches How to Train Your Dragon with me, and most of all...loves unconditionally. I love you more than chocolate & peanut butter, AND more than you'll ever know!

I'm so happy you were born!

(*PS that's exactly what is engraved inside his wedding band: I <3 you more than chocolate & pb)

Love, 

Breezy Osborne-Wingfield

Our Wedding Day~Friday, October 1, 2010

"I'm a romantic adrenaline junkie".....

I am. I can't hide it. I'm proud of it. Jessica Biel said it best, "I'm a romantic adrenaline junkie."

Tonight I walk in the door after work to a surprise that brought tears to my eyes....

dinner~candles~wine~PINK flowers 

I wish I could have captured the look on my face because I'm sure it was a sight to see. Do I stare at the table, or do I hug Tristan uncontrollably saying Thank You?! Pretty sure I did both. 

For those of you that know me, you know that I'm extremely detailed. I take in to account effort, thought & generosity....well?...the detail & effort behind every inch of this evening puts the biggest smile on my face and warms my heart! 

I finally realize what it means to be loved unconditionally....

Lots of Love to my best friend...I can't thank you enough for being you!

xoox~breezy 

PS This is the first time anyone has ever made me dinner....

Trampoline stargazing, forearms, chocolate & lots a love

The only person that’s ever made me speechless? Tristan.

I can usually type or talk for hours...but when it comes to writing this first blog entry? I’ve had this window open for over four hours.

Within the first few days of us dating, I asked him if he had notes written somewhere, or a book he was reading from. Literally. I’ve never known a person to be so honest, upfront, willing to communicate, and most of all...get me. I find myself a pretty simple person with a few quirks :) but can completely understand how I’m perceived as complex.  Many of the things I do aren’t ‘normal’, but wouldn’t have it any other way! (Remember: there’s no such thing as normal;)

For the past year, my bff~Esther, has tried to get Tristan & I to meet in person (keeping in mind we’ve been facebook friends;). 

We did happen to shake hands at a Razorback game last year, and I remember taking the picture of him & Hunter, and Tristan commenting how big his forearm was LOL. Yes, I seriously did laugh out loud. 

Little did I know that I’d be laughing every day when we started ‘talking’. THE funniest person I’ve ever met...next to my Dadoo...Dadoo has made me giggle 30 years and I can still hear his weezy belly laugh over the phone, laughing at his own jokes with me LOL.

Tristan grew up with Esther’s husband, Hunter...I can now say to myself, ‘Why did I never listen to my best friend?’. I mean...what more could you ask for when meeting someone...when your bff fully trusts someone AND knows every single detail about your life?!  Everything happens for a reason, and some things don’t happen for a reason. I believe people come in and out of our lives at the most perfect times, even if we don’t realize at the moment the reasoning. Everything & everyone is hear to teach us something. Would Tristan & I had worked out if we started dating before now? Who knows. I DO know that he was placed in my life at the most perfect time. I can’t thank him enough for everything he’s done for me, and just being there, being him. That means the world to me :)

As corny as this sounds, the first ‘move’ was basically made on facebook. Oh that dang social networking! It worked :) I’d like to say I made the first move, but actually his random sweet comments about us stargazing from the trampoline & taking notice of my music posts was probably the first move (it caught my eye) ....but...because its a staple in our relationship, here is a thread of ours from facebook: Teach Me How to Dougie

Breezy: So...can you teach me how to Dougie, too?
Tristan: Of course I can teach you how to Dougie...I can teach you how to Dougie while rollerblading!
Breezy: Ahh hell. Go ahead and bring a helmet & ace bandage.
Tristan: Actually if you think about it, learning to rollerblade would actually look a lot like you were doing the Dougie... Picture it: "put your hands out front and lean from side to side" ahahahahahaha
Breezy: Omg. I just snorted & laughed singing it aloud Lol. Ok. I'll bring the knee pads. This is starting to scare me Hahaha
Tristan: ahahahahaha
Tristan: Oh and name the time and place, bring your padding, and I'll have you on wheels in no time!
Breezy: The ONLY bone I've ever broke was rollerskating (that's why I didn’t skate at Esther's party)! I might just rent a sumo wrestler costume for padding;) Ok...I'll figure out a time & day....
Breezy: I'm def from the south...is that supposed to be broken or broke? Lol. PS...when do you spin again? You do Sundays?


In other words...you can say Teach Me How to Dougie is our song ;) teehehehe

There’s something to be said about being able to have a conversation with someone about anything...anything you can think of~grass being purple, music, computers, ice, peeing in the shower, its limitless.  There’s also something beautiful about just being with someone in silence. Its the best of both worlds if you ask me. 

Something about me...I'll never ask for anything, and if I do, there's a damn good reason and I'm at my wits end...but at the same time, I don't want to be what I call forgotten. I'm an affectionate & sensual person, love love love the silliest of things, and crave chocolate constantly.

For example...the sweetest man I know put dark chocolate in my nightstand while in Florida. Its the little things that mean the most...to be remembered! I mean...every time he goes to a gas station, grocery store, Walmart, etc...he gets me something...usually dark chocolate :) my girlie magazines, or like today? A variety of soups from Whole Foods after I had dental work~numb, fat lip, drooling and not able to say my B's. Oh and he hammers the nails in the back porch & fixed the 3ft wind chimes. I've never had anyone that just does things for me, and thinks of me, thinks ahead, thinks of us...its the most incredible feeling ever. 


And also...he loves the pups! They adore him :) Those of you that know me know that I'm obsessed with animals! Pick up strays every chance I get (including Buddy, our lab:).

The most important quality I've searched for that is the most difficult to find...that Tristan has? 

I can trust him.  

How's all that for being speechless? 


Tristan, 
Thank you for being in my life, sharing our lives, and most of all, for being you!
I love & adore you with all of my heart!
xoox
~breezy

Aaaaaaaaannnnnnnddddd.....Esther, I can't thank you enough for introducing us!! I love you :)